I am having a bit of a selfish crisis right now.
Everyone has problems. I have my own problems, but should they be more important than anyone else's?
Where can you draw the line between caring... and selfishness?
I feel like I have been dwelling on my own personal issues lately instead of considering how I could help others with their own problems. Perhaps there is a method to that madness, after all, by spending time on other people's problems, won't I have less time to worry about my own problems? Or will their problems quickly become MY problems as well...
So now I am making a problem about dealing with my problems... but what are my problems!? Admitting that they are a problem feels selfish to me. I believe that I do not know what the difference between selfishness and confidence are. Having a lack of confidence may contribute to the fact that one believes that they only do and think selfish things. Are selfish people overly confident, or the converse, are confident people more prone to being selfish?
Personal Definitions:
Confidence- the true and unconscious belief in one's self, instinctual and purposeful belief made to motivate and promote change in one's self
Selfish- self-centered, narcissistic, oblivious, ignorant
I want to be confident, yet unselfish. What kind of person is that? (mother teresa, jk)
I feel as if something has changed in me and it could just be my perception of myself, but it is definitely for the better. I am not sure if it has gone unnoticed, but I sure feel it. My goal for myself for the next few days has been to act out of instinct and think less, thinking is such a hinderance sometimes.
And while you're at it, figure out what you want because saying you don't know isn't a good answer!
Do the you. Sei mich.
there's a fine balance we must strive to obtain between putting others before ourselves, and putting ourselves before others. i struggle with it too, especially in our final months in high school and entering the new big bad world of adulthood. if your decision to "solve" and "problem" is going to hurt you because you're thinking too much about others, or if its going to hurt someone else because you're thinking too much about yourself, then then balance is definitely off. but i'm convinced that you do not jolt the fulcrum of friendly balance quite as much as you think you do :)
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